一个男人的一生应该有几个女人？

     张爱玲曾说里一句非常精辟的话：每个男人的心里都有两朵玫瑰一朵红玫瑰，一朵白玫瑰。
我认为对一个真正的男人而言： 他该有三个女人。
一个是白莲花，那是男孩的初恋，冰清玉洁，美丽如梦。只可远观而不可亵玩焉。对很多男人来说，那都是一朵在青春青涩的梦里一再摇曳的遥不可及的白莲。


一个是红玫瑰。那是男人的热恋。火红热烈，振憾如电。不但可以紧拥入怀，还可以尽情亲吻。男孩经过红玫瑰的洗涤，变成了一个男人。红玫瑰对成熟的男人来讲，是爱不释手的酒。

一个是康乃馨。那是男人的妻子。温馨淡雅，温情脉脉。她是男人奋斗的动力，是男人心灵的依靠，是男人回归的港弯。 她是男人的第二个母亲。男人的天性都是儿童。而康乃馨会含笑纵容他的顽皮并耐心等待他在玩累时回家。

于是，男人一生的成长中，他会暗恋一朵白莲花，他会热恋一朵红玫瑰。但是他会选择一支康乃馨来共渡人生。

白莲花是不适合共同生活的，因为她是如此超凡脱俗，不食人间烟火。红玫瑰能激起男人的征服欲和分泌雄性激素，但是要与一个真正热情如火的红玫瑰生活，很多男人并没有这样的信心。因为他会担心要么引火烧身，要么殃及鱼池。而很多男人需要的只是一个如康乃馨般温情宽容的妻子。
但是，如果你是个足够幸运的男人，你有机会遇到你梦中的白莲，然后让她变成红玫瑰，最后再演变成一朵康乃馨。

 
一个女人的一生应该有几个男人？
对一个女人而言，在你的一生中，你应该遇到三个男人：
一个是远远的瞻仰你的。那该是一个暗恋你的人，他总是遥遥的关注你，他总是对你的细碎琐事都在意，五年或十年后，当他遇到你，他居然还能若无其事般说出那一年，那个夏天，你穿的那条蓝色小花的裙子，还有阳光下，你年青的脸上的笑容。想一想你本来一直觉得每个日子都是如此平淡如水，而却有一个人将关于你的点点滴滴默默收藏，悄悄酝酿，一直等到那平淡的水变成了酒，而多年的后你才无意间揭开瓶盖闻到那浓郁那芬芳。女人的一生中，若没有尝过这种被人默默暗恋的滋味，那该是多么遗憾。

一个是用来被你欺负的。但那个被你欺负的对象原本也是骄傲的。但是你以爱情的名义却很轻易的俘虏了他，于是他变成了你的勇敢的卫士和忠诚的仆人，于是他在黑夜里送你回家，在大热天跑去为你买冰其凌，在舞会上他虎视眈眈害怕连当仆人也有人来争，害怕失去这个卑微的职业。你的微笑对他最重要，你的叹息能让他心如刀割。你的眼神就是他的指南针，而你的心灵就是他要探索的宝藏。如果一生中你没有这样的称王称霸的时刻，该是多么乏味。

还有一个是来收服你的。你在第一个人面前，是神。在第二个人面前是女王。而在这第三个人面前，你是卑微的女仆。刚开始你反抗，你挣扎，你不愿被征服被俘虏被收复，你也绝不愿乖乖的就此投降称臣，可是渐渐的就象那小王子驯服骄傲的狐狸一样，你被驯服了，你心甘情愿的被他占领你的心田，你死心踏地的以他为王。在你的一生中，不管你是多么漂亮，多么才情，多么高贵，如果你的心没被别人以爱情的名义侵占和俘虏过，那你的人生该是多么残缺。

How many women should a man own in his life?
Zhang ailing ever said a very incisive word: There are two roses in every man’s heart: one is red rose and the other is a white rose.
In my opinion, I deem that a real man shall own three women.
The first is the lotus flower. She is the boy’s first love. She is so pure and noble, so beautiful in boy’s dream that only can watch and cannot dishallow. She is a real a white lotus flower in youthful and blue astringent dream that cannot be reached to most of the men.
The second is the red rose. She is the man’s hot love. Like fire, like electricity. She not only can be embosomed but also can be kissed seethingly as much as you like. The boy becomes a man through the red rose. The red rose is a cup of attractive good wine to the mature man.
The third is the carnation. She is the man’s wife. She is not only gentle and fragrant but is full of tender feelings. She is either the man’s motivity of struggling or the man’s heart-backing and recursive harbor. She is the man’s another mother in one certain of meaning. Men are all children in nature. And the carnation would always forgive his naughty behavior and wait him to be back home when he feel tired from playing.
So, in a man’s life, he will long for the white lotus flower secretly. And he will love the red rose hotly. But at last he will choose the carnation to company with him through his life.
White lotus flower is not suit to live together because of her transcendency and purity. Red rose can activize the man’s appetency of conquest. A lot of men have no such confidence to live with a red rose who is full of passion and lure because he was worried about abandoning and cheating. But many men need a warmhearted and good-tempered carnation to be his wife.
And if you are a very lucky man, you may have the chance to meet your white lotus flower, then change her into a red rose, at last, and let her be a carnation.
How many men should a woman have in her life?
As to a woman, you shall meet three men in your life.
The first is the boy who looks at you with reverence far away from you. He is the boy who loves you clandestinely. He is always care for you and take notice of you at any time. After five or ten years, when he meet you, he actually can tell you that you ever dressed a blue skirt and was full of sweet smile in one summer in one year as if nothing happened. Thinking about that you always thought that everyday is dull but in fact someone has packed away your bits and drops silently. He also has brewed them quietly until the fade water become drink. And you smell its deep fragrance after you uncover the lid accidentally. I a woman’s life, if she did not taste this flavor of being loved stealthily, she shall feel so regretful.
Another is the one who you can tease. The one you tease shall be a proud one actually. But you make him as your captive easily by the name of love. Then he becomes to be your brave bodyguard and loyal servant. He will send you be back home at night and will run far to buy a ice-cream for you. He even worries that whether he will lose the job as your servant. Your smile is very important to him. He will feel as if a knife were piercing his heart when he hears your sigh. Your eye expression is his compass and your soul is the storehouse where he wants to grope. If you have no such moment when you can be a queen, you will feel the life is so drab.
The third man is the one who come to conquer you. You are the God in front of the first man and the queen ahead of the second. But you are the maid or slave of the third man. You may revolt and struggle at first. You are reluctant to be conquered. But he tames you at last as a little fox being domesticated by the prince. You are willing to let him to occupy your heart. You are loyal to him and regard him as your king. In your life, no matter how beautiful, intelligent and noble you are, if you heart never has occupied and taken captive by the name of love, your life is really full of deformity.