Resolve Disputes

 

     Every two people live or work together will be possible to face thedisputes.

     But it is not luck enough that most of the people choosethe destroyed way to resolve disputes.

They always find the dispute will form a circleof the conflict and be escalated by long past trivial.

They do not even want the other said the complete sentense. They assume he will even insult them so they stop them from saying and fight it back with the even more destructive words.

     They talked to each other but no one would liketo stop to think what is the other side view of point. They fight back so quick lest the slowness put them inferior position in the battle. But at last both of them get angrierand leave the relationship gaps widen.

Why not try the only listen when some one said somethingangrily.

Just listen no matter what she says,Let him finish his presentation.

Maybe you are very angry about what he was sayingbut stop giving him the explanation just listening.

Maybe in his follwoing speech he would explain why he spoke this.

Give him a chance to express a complete viewof point then they will want you to say.

Analyze what he want to get and give it to them. When he finish his speech you can express yours openly after a short time rest and quiet. 

Why is that?

It is because we can not express our viewpointparallel.
The language is one way and serial. It is hard to image what is next after one sentenceso that we need to hear the whole paragraph instead of the one sentence to avoidthe disputes escalated.

 

Some times I find the situation would becomeworse if we said something interactively without enough time to analyze and adding the assume objectively. but when We find the mutual purpose and throw it out I find it is become hardto let the disputes exist.

Because It is very hard to fight someone who is on your side.