"男人最深的恐惧"

苏晴译的《男人来自火星，女人来自金星》中文版里的几句：

男人最深的恐惧是他不够好，或不够资格。

男人特别容易受到他错误信念的伤害。这信念使他害怕失败。他想给予，但怕失败，所以他不肯尝试。如果他最大的恐惧是自己不够好，他自然会避免任何不必要的冒险。

讽刺的是，男人越在乎失败就越给得少，为了避免夫败，对于原先他最想给予的人，他也停止给予了。

原文是：

A man's deepest fear is that he is not good enough or that he is incompetent.

A man is particularly vulnerable to this incorrect belief. It generates within him the fear of failing. He wants to give but is afraid he will fail, so he doesn't try. If his biggest fear is inadequacy, he naturally is going to avoid any unnecessary risks.

Ironically, when a man really cares a lot his fear of failure increases, and he gives less. To avoid failure he stops giving to the people he wants to give to the most.