情感分析

回复人： FengYuanMSFT(袁峰 www.fengyuan.com) ( ) 信誉：100  2005-07-30 14:13:00  得分: 0 
 
 
   Sorry I'm still going to use English for longer conversation.

I was just trying to dramatise your communication. Basically, he was complaining about you, and you were complaining about him. There is not a good way of communication. The fact that you have waited for a month for his reply proofed that he was quite mad when he sent you that message.

huangcunjuan has said quite well. So I thought I do not have more to add. But now that you asked, I'm going to share some of my thoughts as someone whose son is appraching dating age.

When boys/girls start dating, they are not mentally mature enough to take care of themselves, let alone taking care of another person in a loving and caring relationship. There are lots of things to learn, lots of conflicts to resolve, lots of childhood dreams proved to be totally unrealistic. We know ourselves are not the best, so we can't expect the other party to be flawless either.

Your BF complained that you have three issues: 过于敏感，很喜欢自作主张 and 自作聪明. But you replied with complaing about him. This is not the proper way of communication. If he is totally unreasonable jerk, you should not even be friend with himself anymore. So definitely he does have some good qualities and may be he had some good reasons to say those harmful words. A better way to reply would be to think really deep about his complains and check if you really have those issues. If you do, admit them and telling him that you appreciate his host opinions of you and you're welling to work on those issues. Had you replied to his message this way, he would feel that you really care about his feelings and respect his opinions, instead of just paying lip services. Then he will be much welling to listen to your complains. That will be a much better way of resolving conflicts, make both of you a better person, and build a stronger relationship.

What you did was just the opposite. You disregarded each and every of his complains and then you fired back with your own complains, supported by your friends' comments, and ended with a time limit for him to make the first move to solve your problem.

There is one important thing to remember. What a guy wants most is respect. If a smart man sees that he is not respected by the other party, he would know that there is not much future hope in the relationship. So the best way out may be to stop the relationship. A wiser man may try to improve the situation, but normally people would just give up without a try or give up after a few failures.

If your nickname SnowWhiteCoder has some real meaning in life, it may mean that you see yourself as or dream being nice, pretty, perfect, just waiting for the perfect prince to kiss you, and then you will live happily ever after. That is a fairytale. Do not believe in it as it's not real life. In real life, you're not perfect, and there is no ready-made perfect prince for you. Most importantly, you can't wait for the best thing to happen for you. You have to work to earn it, and sometimes fight for it.

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You've already waited too long! Either contact him or forget him.