6 Common Communication Mistakes That You Might Be Making

6 Common Communication Mistakes That You Might Be Making

1.Not using “we” language.

不用“我们”等词汇

Relationships are not a competition. Or at least they shouldn’t be. But so many people view the other person as the “enemy.” They speak with “me vs. you” language. You need to reframe it and think of yourselves as a team. Work together, not against each other. Work to solve a problem.

关系不是一种竞赛。或者至少不应该是。但是有那么多的人将另外的人看做“敌人”。他们说“我”和“你”。你需要重新组合，把你们看成一个整体。是团结协作的关系而非互相对立。一起合作解决问题。

2.Interrupting.

打断

What does it say to someone when you interrupt them? It says, “What I have to say is more important than what you have to say.” Not a very nice message, huh? Women tend to interrupt out of excitement and/or being afraid they will forget what the are going to say. Men tend to do it more as a power move. Either way, it still says, “I’m more important than you.”

你在打断别人的时候一般都说些什么呢？会说，“我说的比你说的要重要些。”不是个好理由吧？女人常常会因为担心太兴奋或者太害怕而忘记自己想要说的内容而打断别人。男人则会因喜欢掌控全局而打断别人，不管怎样，总之就是，“我比你重要。”

3.Making assumptions before you hear the whole message.

在全面了解情况以前就作出假设。

You probably have rolled your eyes at people, thinking, “Oh I don’t even have to hear the rest of this – I already know what they’re going to say!” Well, maybe you do, but maybe you don’t. Don’t do that. We don’t like when people make assumptions about what we are saying, so don’t do that to other people either.

你可能会用眼睛盯着别人，想着，“我不必听完余下部分了---我已经知道他们要说什么了。”好吧，也许是这样的，也许也不是这样。所以不要。我们不喜欢别人设想我们的谈话内容，所以也不要做自己讨厌的事。

4.Referring to yourself and your life more than asking people about theirs.

多谈谈自己，多谈谈自己的生活，不要老是贸贸然的问别人

If you never ask other people what’s going on in their life, then you look pretty darn self-absorbed. I have people in my life who spend about 95% of the time we are together talking about themselves.

如果你从没问过别人的生活，那你看起来似乎比较自私。在生活中有人会用大部分的时间和我们谈论他们自己。

5.Needing to “win” an argument.

要弄清楚谁输谁赢

I’m going to repeat this again. Relationships are not a competition.Admitting that you’re wrong is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of maturity. No one is right all of the time. Don’t think you have to “win.” Acknowledging your mistakes will not give away your power. It shows that you are the better person because you can be honest.

我又得重复那句话。交流不是竞争。承认你的错误不是你的弱点。这样是一种成熟的表现。没人会永远都做对的事。你不需要“赢”。承认错误不会让你失去什么。因为你的诚实只能证明你已变得更好。

6.Expecting people to be a mind reader.

期待别人能读懂你

No one is. So why do we expect them to be? Women use indirect language. But if you really want someone to understand you, you have to speak directly. Otherwise, you can’t hold them accountable if they misinterpret your cryptic message.

没有人能做到。所以为什么你要对他们怀有那样的期待？女性使用隐晦的语言。但如果你真的想要别人能理解你，你就得直接一点。否则如果他们因此无心的打扰你，你不能让他们为此负责。

（文章来源：大耳朵英语）