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Forgetting Someone in 8Steps: Mending a Broken Heart

break up can be tough. Sometimes, it's even hard for bothsides--after all,

breaking up is not easy to do. It hurts to throw awayyour story with someone--all the good memories and the dreams andplans you two had for the future. Mending a broken heart takes timeand patience. But you must face the fact that your heart is broken.It doesn't matter if you wish things could be different or if youeven regret something you did. It doesn't matter if you think youshouldn't have become that involved with that person or if you'reangry and looking for revenge. The fact is: Your heart is broken!This relationship advice can help.

Even if the only thing you want to do is win your partnerback - and by the way, if you're interested in doing this then Istrongly recommend The Magic of Making Up - when a relationship istruly over, it's time to begin the healing process.

So now what? Are you going to sit and cry for the rest ofyour life or do you intend to do something? Was that ending yourfault or are you not the one to blame? Is there something you cando to fix it? Is there something you should stop and think about soyou can act in a better way the next time 'round? Is mending abroken heart even possible? Of course it is! Getting over a breakup is possible. There are many things you can do to heal a brokenheart! And the best thing is: It all depends on you! Here's how toforget someone in 8 steps.

Step 1

Cry out everything you have to cry about! When we gethurt, it's normal (and good) to cry. Don't ever think you're beingweak for crying and don't feel embarrassed because of it! It'snormal and it's good! When you cry, you let go of part of youranger and hurt so you can feel less heavy. You can lock yourself ina room, if you want to, and put on some sad music...but letyourself feel the pain and cry so you can let it go. The main thinghere is: Get rid of the pain! Just let her go!

Step 2

Get busy!

When you're trying to get someone out of your head, youneed to put other things inside of it.

In other words...get busy! It doesn't matter how, youjust need to get distracted. Go to a movie, watch a play, travel.It doesn't matter what are you going to do--the important thing isto find something to do. Find a hobby, find something you enjoydoing, something to keep your mind busy. If your mind is busy, itdoesn't have time or space to think about the person you're tryingto forget.

Step 3

Spend some time with your friends. Friends are alwaysgreat to have in this kind of situation! Friends can make you feelgood about yourself and get you distracted very easily. They willcertainly make you laugh and make you see that you're way moreimportant than you think! The only warning is: Ask them not to talkabout the person you're trying to forget. If they start bringingthe topic up in every conversation, you won't be able to forget,and instead of making you laugh, they're going to make you cry. Sobe honest and ask them not to talk about it!

Step 4

Avoid the person! Try not to go to places you know youcan meet that person. When you're trying to forget someone and youtwo keep seeing each other, it can be even harder to get over it.If you meet him/her somewhere, be polite, but find an excuse to goaway as fast as you can! If you work or study with him/her and youcan't avoid seeing him/her, just try not to look and not to talktoo much. Just be gentle and keep busy all the time so you won'thave excuses to look at him/her or to chat.

Step 5

Go out and see some different faces! Being at home givesyou more time to think about the relationship, which makes theprocess of working through the end of that relationship even moredifficult. So even if you're not feeling excited or you're in a badmood, just put on your best clothes, best shoes, best smile, callsome friends and go somewhere nice where you can dance, drink,listen to some music. And the most important: See some differentfaces! When you go out, you notice that the person you're trying toforget is not the only one who's got a perfect smile and an amazingvoice...thank god, there are other interesting people in theworld!

Step 6

Avoid every kind of romantic thing! If you're trying toforget someone, you'd better not watch romantic movies or listen toromantic songs...it makes you feel bad and you will certainlyremember the person you're trying to forget. It doesn't matter ifit's a song you love or if it's playing on the radio...just changethe station or do something else. Put on some happy songs, dancingsongs, watch some comedies, terror movies, whatever...you just needto avoid the romantic things for now!

Step 7

Take good care of yourself. Women tend to run for somekind of self-destruction when they're hurt. If we break up ourperfect relationship, then we have no reason to get our nails doneanymore and the only thing that gives us comfort is chocolate andsugar. That way, the only thing we do is to become less attractiveand lessen our self-confidence. So if you're hurt, just try to useyour pain for yourself instead of against you. Go to the gym, workout a lot, get your nails and hair done...do whatever you can soyou can feel more pretty and confident!

Step 8

Accept the process! You can be really strong and it'sstill going to hurt. The process takes time and you have to acceptthat. You can't hope to forget in 2 days someone you loved for 2years...and you can't pretend to be strong if you feel like crying.Just face your pain and accept that it's not easy and it's going totake some time. When you're patient with yourself and yoursituation, things tend to get easier...

Of course, forgetting someone is not easy to do nor is iteasily explained in just 8 steps. But there are some things thatmake the process a lot smoother. As I said, it takes time and it'shard but I'm sure you can do it. The only thing that is really,really important is: It all depends on you! Don't ever forget that.If you want to forget someone, then you will, there is no doubt!Even if it takes a long time, even if you have to be reallystrong...you will be! In that kind of situation we usually find outthat we are a lot stronger than we give ourselves credit for. Sobelieve that -- believe that, take a deep breath and move on! Yourlife's waiting for you, baby!